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| Agata |
Posted - 10/17/2004 : 09:25:21
I think I am progressing in my TMS therapy and would like to share it with you.
It’s probably a year since I discovered TMS and Dr. Sarno. I followed Dr. Sarno’s book recommendations and my TMS got to the point of only discomfort in my back, elbow, little digestive problems, and casual sleep interruptions. The paralyzing pain is gone.
I totally accepted my TMS. Whenever I have little pain or discomfort, I turn to my emotions. I never anymore think what is wrong with me physically.
Two days ago I didn’t have any discomfort. The TMS symptoms were completely gone. It was a great feeling but, I was basket case emotionally. My TMS is triggered now by my repressed fears and emotions connected to that. I have a fear of not being able to provide for myself, financial worries. I was so fearful that my hands shake little. I am finding method to face those fears but my TMS is definitely under control.
It looks like when I feel bad emotionally the TMS is gone. That sucks.
Did anybody experienced similar break through? What methods do you use to deal with emotions, to take that emotional pain away?
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| Agata |
Posted - 10/19/2004 : 17:35:44
Thanks Everybody!
All of you had great advice, that's what I was looking for.
Shapiro:
I feel great compassion for you but I must tell you, only active approach worked for me in solving any problems in my whole life. I may have moments when I am down but I learned through life experiences (I am older than you are) that our destiny catches with us no matter what we do to manipulate that. Than, relax and things will happen for you. You have your own destiny and I am sure it’s a great one. |
| Zshapiro32 |
Posted - 10/19/2004 : 09:00:05
This is an interesting post. I wonder how bad the real emotional "pain" actually is. I fear that mine is worse than I can imagine given my level of insecurity.
I don't know about everyone here, but for some reason I have hope that someday I will be "normal." Someday I will be sure of myself and I'll be happy, and be in a loving relationship. But that's all I do, hope. I make no effort towards fixing my attitude towards life. I'm young now, 24, but for some reason I think I will wed and have children, but if I my outlook on life is similiar to the way it is now, that won't happen. Yet, I still have this feeling that everything will get better.
Does anyone else have this blind faith or hope of achieving happiness? |
| tdk |
Posted - 10/19/2004 : 07:06:40
Agata,
I find it interesting that you ask how to get rid of the emotional pain. I have asked myself that question many many times over the years. The answer is we never really do. It's part of our history and our challenge is to learn healthier ways to deal with it, make peace with it, if you will.
I think ACCEPTANCE is the key. Everyone has emotional pain to one degree or another. It's part of being human! I grew up with a mentally ill mom and abusive dad, a very cruel, unsafe environment. There is no getting rid of that pain, but I am in the process of realizing I DID NOT PUT THAT PAIN THERE SO WHY DO I BEAT MYSELF UP? But as sad as it is, it is also in my power to make peace with what happened so it doesn't continue to rule my life (and my body pain!).
I am re-reading Weeke's book, "Hope and Help For Your Nerves." It was written eons ago and is a lot less technical than most self-help books these days. But I find her simplicity in dealing with anxiety, etc., refreshing and hopeful. You may want to take a look.
Hang in there...I am!! TDK |
| iyusaf |
Posted - 10/18/2004 : 21:57:20
If an emotion is pushing up, it's important not to stuff it back because there is a risk of the physical defense (pain) returning.
The ideal way to deal with this situation is to feel the underlying fear, preferably with a trained psychotherapist. Your shaking hand is an indication of the quality of the underlying emotion.
Taking some quiet time alone to allow the feelings to manifest themselves will go a long way towards resolving both the emotional and physical pain. |
| menvert |
Posted - 10/17/2004 : 19:38:37
Good work, Agatha
Sarno does mention that he believes depression and other psychological 'illness' is often a TMS equivalent also.
Depression itself, serves as a very good distraction indeed.... as does obsessive compulsive disorder and many others.
So it may be you are over the TMS physically . now perhaps it's moved to a different arena as Tom said.
Although it may be challenging for us TMS profile people . I think it's useful for all of us to foster the skill not to worry and to just say 'whatever' or as Tom said, turn them into positive thoughts.
Good luck, you sound like you've made wonderful progress |
| tennis tom |
Posted - 10/17/2004 : 10:28:26
Dear Agata,
Congratulations on your TMS success!  You've made a TRANSFORMATION in your psychology and thusly a TRANSFORMATION in your physical body.
If you think about it, now that you have fixed many of your physical and emotional issues, you are BETTER equipped to deal with a financial calamity.
I occassionaly lie awake at night, in a cold sweat, thinking about, "WHAT IF    "
Maybe, TMS'ers, being of above average intelllegence, (according to Sarno), are more subceptible to depression and dark thoughts. Someone once said, if you look at life and history truthfully, you should be depressed.
Accepting TMS theory, teaches us that we have enough trouble dealing with our own problems, much less changing the world around us.
Your worries about finances are, I'm sure, shared by all rational people. You are not alone in that. I would view these negative thoughts as TMS equivalents. The TMS gremlin has given up using your anatomical body as a battle ground. It is now trying to use the dark side of your mind to distract you from accessing all your emotions including the happy ones.
When you have negative thoughts, practice shifting them to positive ones. Not being Pollyanna, but learn to view the glass as half full rather than half empty. This takes some practice just like the other aspects of TMS. My mother used to tell me to think about those less fortunate. It is true. If we can break out of looking blindly inwardly at our own problems we can see the greater outside world more accurately and see that we are better off than most others.
Try to get some daily exercise. This will make you feel physicaly stronger and help give you the mental confidence to carry on.
Agata, congratulations on your TMS BREAKTHROUGH! Enjoy the view from your new plateau. Keep working towards the next plateau.
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