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Joy_I_Am
United Kingdom
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 Posted - 06/08/2011 : 02:46:27
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Responding to on old post here, because I was very struck by what Yogaluz said - that thing about 'pasting on a smile' for your therapist - absolutely! Pretending you're getting better, because you know that's what the therapist wants... and all the people-pleasing patterns, and falling into the mother dynamic if it's a woman, etc etc. Yes, c'est moi!
I haven't had long-term therapy, just short-term counselling when I did a college course, and then for anxiety on the NHS (took 12 months to get it, hooray NHS). I found it helpful to be speaking out about my issues, and one counsellor told me I was sleep-deprived, which I had been, uh, too sleep-deprived to notice, heh. Also, I tend very much to isolate, so it was good simply to put some shoes on and get out of the house! So it was good in that respect.
But ultimately, I feel I'm better off journalling, because I am honest there. There's always a self-protective mechanism which kicks in with a counsellor. Also, my last one made some comment about her cleaner, calling her 'my little woman', and that is something that sets my teeth on edge - looking down on someone for the job they do. My mother was a cleaner, I've cleaned bathrooms for a living. All work is honourable, and it just undermined all my trust in this snotty woman.
I like Julia Cameron's Morning Pages; the fact you write three pages means that you might start off resistant, but eventually you bash through to something, and you can be as wild and go as deep as you like, and don't have to stop when the hour's up!
But other people might feel the need for guidance, and that's fine too, it's horses for courses; this is just my take on it. |
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Do you speak freely with your therapist?
