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susaninnewyork
USA
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 Posted - 09/27/2004 : 15:15:27
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I just started reading the Mindbody Rx and I am more open minded than my husband. I can already tell that he thinks this is a scam. Any suggestions on how to go about this? I'm sure its a very common situation. Do you keep it to yourself or what. Thanks. New here. :) |
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Laura
USA
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Posted - 09/27/2004 : 18:20:47
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Dear Susan,
I just read your post and know it can be really difficult when you are the one dealing with the physical problems and looking for a solution and your spouse is more close minded. That's how it is with my husband but he's finally starting to come around. I read Dr. Sarno's Mindbody Prescription book a few years ago, after reading about him in Andrew Weil's book, Spontaneous Healing. At the time, I was experiencing tinnitus and thought maybe there would be something in the book to help me. I never really applied much of what Dr. Sarno says to do until recently and it has helped me immensely. I remember asking my husband to read the book and he flipped through it and read certain parts but didn't actually sit down and digest the entire book as I had. He is such a skeptic but he did get it. Maybe because he has a psychology degree, I don't know. I put that book away for a couple of years until I got my most recent problem, dizziness. After suffering for a little over two years, I decided to look at the book again. That was such an eye opening experience for me. I saw patterns in myself and realized that I had suffered from TMJ, irritable bowel, ulcers, urinary problems, tension headaches, you name it! Then, while on-line, I found Dr. David Schechter, here in L.A., and found out that he studied under Dr. Sarno so I began seeing him and he confirmed to me that I had TMS and that I was correct that my dizziness was caused by this. What a relief! I know it helps to have the support system but I don't think you need that for the methods to work. Using this forum, journal writing, and thinking constantly that my problem is psychological has really helped. You don't need your husband's okay for you to help yourself. Yes, it would be nice, but it is definitely not necessary. My husband is now completely on board, and that is great, but I still don't think it's necessary for you to heal. Good luck to you!
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Dave
USA
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Posted - 09/28/2004 : 09:32:51
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Originally posted by susaninnewyork
I just started reading the Mindbody Rx and I am more open minded than my husband. I can already tell that he thinks this is a scam. Any suggestions on how to go about this? I'm sure its a very common situation. Do you keep it to yourself or what. Thanks. New here. :)
You have to go it alone then. It's unfortunate that you don't have a spouse that will support you unconditionally. Maybe that is one aspect of your life for which you need to explore the underlying emotions.
It is not worth talking about TMS with anyone who might (willingly or unwillingly) undermine your confidence in the diagnosis. So keep him out of the loop, and instead focus on proving him wrong by making yourself better! |
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iyusaf
USA
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Posted - 09/28/2004 : 10:12:00
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I asked my wife to join me when I went to Dr. Sarno's lectures. Listening to Dr. Sarno (in his white lab coat) at NYU helped her to accept the diagnosis.
Good luck! |
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pault
USA
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Posted - 10/03/2004 : 18:47:28
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| Ask your spouse,if someone has a broken leg: Who heals it? The brain does all! |
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mala
Hong Kong
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Posted - 10/04/2004 : 05:18:24
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Does it bother you a lot that he doesn't approve? If it is not a big issue then don't turn it into one. As long as he is not actively getting in your way, leave it be. Don't look for his approval as verification of the fact that you have tms . You are the only person that needs convincing that you have tms and only you can do the work to get rid of it.
Tell him about it only if he asks and shows genuine interest and remember we are here if you need a sounding board.
Good Luck & Good Health
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how do you stay confident with spousal disaproval?
