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shawnsmith
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 Posted - 01/09/2013 : 11:18:20
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KristenG
USA
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Posted - 01/09/2013 : 11:28:47
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Ha! I guess we are in the same boat then? Mine is only temporary until I find a new place to live. In the meantime, I am trying to find a way to cope.
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tennis tom
USA
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Posted - 01/09/2013 : 11:32:11
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Originally posted by KristenG
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The more I want to get well the longer the symptoms will persist.
My .02 on this is that you are already well. It is just that your perception is off. If you believe yourself to be well, you will. If you doubt it, you won't. It sounds simple, but sometimes we try to make things more difficult that they are. Henry Ford said something like "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right!" Same sort of thing. Again, this is just my .02.
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There are occasions / people within my life which trigger symptoms.
This is one that I struggle with. If anyone can offer any insight on this I am all ears.
Kristen
Welcome to TMSLand Kristen, good post! I agree TMS is much to do about how we feel about ourselves and our situations, as you said PERCEPTION.
As far as relationship triggers, that's huge too--being in one/not being in one--whatever. As far as the important ones like parents:"Why are they so good at pushing our buttons--because they installed them."
I try to learn from others mistakes, I've never married, but I've been and am in long-term relationships that are longer then most marriages--no kids though, a cat once in a while. Others can probably advise better: headphones, separate bedrooms, separate vacations, boxing gloves, divorce?
Cheers,
tt
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shawnsmith
Czech Republic
2048 Posts |
Posted - 01/09/2013 : 11:48:18
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| Oh Tom, marriage would clear up your TMS right away. LOL |
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tennis tom
USA
4749 Posts |
Posted - 01/09/2013 : 12:05:37
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Originally posted by shawnsmith
Oh Tom, marriage would clear up your TMS right away. LOL
Thanks for the kind words Shawn, but I'd rather take a bullet in my hip--and in fact took a TMS bullet there once that triggered it all--I won't mention her name. |
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KristenG
USA
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Posted - 01/09/2013 : 14:07:42
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Thanks for the warm welcome, TennisTom. I have been lurking for some time. I finally decided to register and join in the conversation.
I am not very good with relationships apparently. I've been married. I went through a long period of anxiety when I divorced...and I was the one that wanted the divorce. Crazy, right? I was then in another 8 or 9 year relationship. I, too, was the one that wanted out. I got out of the relationship, but not out of the house. Due to financial reasons we both still needed to cohabitate. After this one I figured I would take some time to figure out where and was going wrong. Part of my problem is that I am a people pleaser (of course), so I always did whatever made others happy, regardless of how I felt. I have been feeling more stress than normal the last few month...job stuff, a sick parent..etc. That caused me to start having panic attacks again. I am pretty good at pushing those away but then I started with pain things...tmj, neck/shoulder pain, and vertigo. I had read Dr. Sarno's book years ago when I had anxiety so I knew it was TMS. I found this site and the TMSwiki site and started to journal. That has been helpful, but reliving a lot of my past experiences has brought up a lot of anger at the ex...anger that I had previously suppressed. I feel like I can't be around him at all without feeling angry. I don't express it because I need a place to live at the moment. When I repress the anger I get bouts of dizziness. Dizziness/vertigo is my "scariest" symptom. I am trying not to pay any attention, but it isn't easy....but I will get there.
So that's my story and I'm stickin' to it! That's for listening. I look forward to getting to know you all a little better.
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Racer
USA
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Posted - 01/13/2013 : 08:15:16
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Oh Tom, marriage would clear up your TMS right away. LOL
TTom, think 1,000 times.
I'm sure, you know very well, there is always a challenge to meet the expectations of others in a relationship.
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