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Shary
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 Posted - 04/28/2007 : 08:26:59
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I just got over one of those 3-day stomach viruses. Interestingly, my TMS pain was immediately about 75 percent better even though I felt rotten otherwise. Now I am wondering if it was because (a) the TMS had something else to focus on, (b) I totally rested my muscles because I was too sick to do anything else, (c) I had just scheduled an appointment with my PT after having not gone for a couple of months, (d) maybe I was due to get better regardless, or (e) all of the above. My shoulder pain has gotten somewhat worse again with renewed activity, although the pain in my left hip is pretty much gone. I'm not sure what to think of all this.
A little off the subject, but does anyone else find that various issues/problems become almost insurmountable, even when they are silly simple things that are relatively easy to resolve? Is this part of TMS? Or is it that living with pain over such a long period of time leaves you so mentally unfocused that you aren't up to much of anything?
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tennis tom
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Posted - 04/28/2007 : 08:38:42
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Originally posted by Shary
A little off the subject, but does anyone else find that various issues/problems become almost insurmountable, even when they are silly simple things that are relatively easy to resolve? Is this part of TMS? Or is it that living with pain over such a long period of time leaves you so mentally unfocused that you aren't up to much of anything?
I wouldn't say that's off the subject, sounds like depression, a TMS affective equivalent.
some of my favorite excerpts from 'TDM' : http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2605
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Littlebird
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Posted - 04/28/2007 : 15:45:23
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Hi Shary,
I think that the two subjects you mention may actually be related. I agree with Tom that finding small issues almost insurmountable is a sign of depression. For me it's also a sign of anxiety, which generally goes hand-in-hand with depression in my life. Here's how I think this issue of being overwhelmed can relate to feeling better when you have a real virus (less TMS pain or other TMS symptoms, that is; as you say, you still feel rotten from the virus)--when I get some real illness I feel like I am relieved of the responsibility to handle all those overwhelming tasks, because I have symptoms that I can't overcome by TMS work and can't just push through, but I just need to rest and let the virus run it's course, so I am more at ease mentally, because I get to just stop trying to deal with my life and take a little break. This may not be the case for you, but it's one possibility to consider.
As for why I feel this depression/anxiety and feel overwhelmed by small problems that could be easily solved, I have reached this point because I have been the one family member who is responsible for handling nearly everything that life requires and I'm just sick of having all these never-ending little tasks to take care of. It seems like my family thinks I should feel fulfilled by running our lives, dealing with all these details, when actually I'm fed up with never having time and energy for what I really want to be doing because of this never-ending to-do list and I resent being expected to handle so many more responsibilities than everyone else does. But my attempts to explain what I need and to get others to be more responsible just fall on deaf ears--nothing really changes. It's almost more tiring to try to get others to contribute than to just keep doing everything myself. |
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Shary
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Posted - 04/28/2007 : 17:45:14
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| Littlebird, regarding being the only family member who is responsible, etc.....me too! As to the other stuff, I think both of you are right on target. Right now I'm reading a book called When Things Fall Apart, by Pema Chodron. Although I don't agree with everything she says, she made a few comments pertinent to my own situation, one of which is (in my own words)--Stop trying to make the pain go away! I think this might be what Sarno meant when he said to ignore the pain or push through it. Deepak Chopra said it in a slightly different way: Relax and be with your pain. With TMS it makes sense. If you quit trying to get rid of the pain and just ignore it, it loses its hold over you (I hope). |
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Paul
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Posted - 04/28/2007 : 17:50:27
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Yes, I think the real trick to beating TMS pain is (put simply)...
1. Knowledge: Understanding that it is all tension based from the brain only.
2. Acceptance: Accepting 100% it is "pain from the brain".
Really that is it.
It is human nature to run or avoid pain and seek relief. But with TMS, it looks like it is paradoxical...meaning we need to move TO the pain instead with out fear because when you stare it down and move TO it...this means you don't hold fear. And fear is at the root of it all.
At least, that is what I'm starting to believe...it is the BELIEVING 100% that is the hard part for me...but I'm learning or being re-conditioned.
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